All too often I find myself trying to figure out what this whole cancer journey is supposed to mean. What it means to Jeff, his family, the kids, our friends, to me… It’s like sitting through a bad philosophy class in college where you’re desperately trying to follow along and understand, to make sense of it and then eventually some of the students just give up. Today I gave up. The past two weeks were excruciatingly long. At the end of it all, we are grateful and relieved, and we feel beyond blessed. This weekend we celebrated with family and friends who we hadn’t seen for far too long. Today I woke up like I do everyday to the sound of Fin crying (the little man, well, big man wakes up ready to eat!). Jeff got up with him and I slept in for the first time in months…maybe a year even. It felt great. As the day went on and Fin went down for naps, I laid back down too. I had no problem falling asleep. I realized I was tired like I used to be when I went home on spring break. It reminded me of those first couple of days in your own bed feeling so happy and secure, easily sleeping past the noon hour… Except today was a little different, I felt an incredible amount of guilt for sleeping as much as I did. It was a mix of feeling the tug of chores going undone, being absent from the boys’ stay, and realizing I was void of the energy I thought I should have after Jeff’s good news.
Even writing this post, I feel like I should be full of hope and happiness. It’s not that I’m not. In fact Jeff and I watched a great piece on 60 Minutes tonight about miraculous strides being made in the treatment of cancers using Polio. We were nearly brought to tears sitting there, being reminded of the reality of his disease, but even more so realizing the possibilities that lie ahead in treating it. Maybe curing it. All really positive things these last couple of weeks. All things I’m internally jumping for joy over. And yet, I know when I close my laptop I will be asleep in minutes.
I guess we’re all allowed a day here and there to give up, to give in. Maybe this will all make perfect sense tomorrow. 🙂
Much love and much hope! xo.